Friday, 13 September 2019

Zippos Circus

After the hype of The Greatest Showman last year Mason started to show an interest in the circus. The idea of showing everything weird and wonderful is fascinating in a child’s eyes. You can’t deny there’s a real mystical feel that is unlike any other performance. 


I remember going to the circus in my early 20's with a group of friends. It was a great night out and something a little bit different than our usual trips to the pub.

 When I was offered the chance to go visit this year I knew it would be a lot of fun to watch the show as a family. Mason has been so good since Mila’s arrival, he's been the perfect big brother and a great help to me, not just since she was born but throughout my pregnancy too. He deserves a treat with us and a little time with just Mum and Dad and this looks perfect.

 Zippos Circus is back on the road for with a nationwide Big Top 2019 tour – The
 Magnificent Top Hat. They’re celebrating 21 years since Ringmaster Norman
 Barrett MBE first appeared at Zippos Circus. Norman holds the Guinness World Record for the longest-serving Ringmaster and he’ll be presenting acts from all over the world. From astonishing acrobats and aerialists, amazing contortionists, clever comics and daredevil motorcyclists -they have it all! 


With such a variety of acts there’s bound to be something for everyone. I’m really looking forward to seeing  3 foot 6 showman Paulo Dos Santos who is meant to be fantastically funny. And watching daring acts like knife throwers up close is going to be nail biting! 

They are currently in Twickenham until the 17th September, then on to Peckham Rye from 24th-29th September. They are coming to a couple of locations near me but the easiest for us to get to is Bannisters Field in Guildford at the beginning of October and they head on to Rochester, Finsbury Park and Hampstead Heath afterwards. 


Tickets for the two hour show (with interval) start from just £9 for adults (15 years and over) and £7.50 for children. Kids under 2 go free if they don’t occupy a seat.

If you want to head down to see the show I have a discount code that will give you 30% off. Just use ZIP30 when you order. You can find the tour dates and locations  here:

I’ll be sharing our experience over on Instagram so keep an eye out at the beginning of next month and check out the #zipposcircus hashtag on instagram in the meantime! 

*I've been offered complimentary tickets to attend this event but all thoughts and views are my own


Monday, 2 September 2019

Our Day at the Beach

I try not to get too bogged down with the competitive side of the Summer break. I say try because naturally I'm always doubting myself when it comes to the kids. The whole ‘you only have ‘X’ more summers with them’ comes with a lot of pressure to make sure you're out and about, making sure you all 'enjoy every moment'.  I don’t think that the child who goes on the most day trips has the best Summer. Never mind the cost of all those days out, it’s good to have some rest days not only for them but for us Mums too! Days just hanging out with family, a quick trip to the park on the way back from the food shop or even just a movie (that they almost never sit through!) day -It’s all fun for them. You don’t need to keep up with what you think the wonder mums are doing, they probably have secret boring days too and if they don’t I bet they’re bloody shattered! 


During this summer break we've made sure we've mixed in some rest days along with some days out. On one of the more active days we  headed  down to Portsmouth to Kidz island South Pier.

I spent all of my childhood summers at the beach so I've got a real love for the British seaside. It has that old nostalgia and the smell in the air just makes me smile as it takes me back to being young and carefree.


We live about an hour away from Portsmouth so it's easy for us to drive down for the day when the mood takes us. So one rather sunny day we managed to tear Mason from his Nintendo Switch for long enough to head down for a day at the beach.

 As you walk along the beach you see the traditional Helter Skelter ride on the end of the pier which gives it that authentic feel. Right away I heard the  familiar sound of beeps and songs from the arcade machines and the children's excitement. 


We went straight to the ticket booth to get our £7.50 wristband which gave us access to all rides and could go on as many times as we wanted. If you are planning on spending the day here the wristband is your best option but you can choose to pay £2 per ride if you just want a couple of goes. 

There's a good selection of rides which suit under tens. Being 5 months old meant that Mila was a little too small for the rides but she enjoyed all the bright colours around her. The mini planes was a favourite of Mason's. Each plane had a different theme and his wristband meant he wasn't disappointed when the Pokemon plane was taken, it meant he could go on that one on his next go and opted for a different plane for his first go. We are all familiar with a child's mini breakdown when they don't get what they want so this was a massive plus in my eyes!


He loved the chair swings and the caterpillar roller coaster with the great view out to sea. It looked really lovely on such a clear day. I really enjoyed going on this with him, it was so nice to see him enjoy the things I loved as a kid. It really felt like we had some proper family time.


We all took it in turns to have a go on the Dogems. I'd forgotten how much fun they are and they really brought out the kids in Sam and I. I think a date to a fair is on the cards soon!

We couldn't walk past without having a go at 'hook a duck' - a prize every time just makes it worth it. Even Mila got a go! 


No trip to the seaside is complete without Fish and Chips so we treated ourselves in the restaurant and took the weight off our feet for a bit. We had an ice cream and a play in the arcade before we headed home. 

We visited on a sunny Friday afternoon and Mason walked straight on to every ride. On one occasion he got to go around again on the roller coaster which he loved. 

There is a selection of food stalls on the pier selling both hot and cold food and drink so there's something to keep your energy levels up. We had a paddle in the sea, ate ice cream, managed to keep the seagulls from stealing our chips and I got slightly pink shoulders, All in all a fabulous day at the beach which meant a couple of lazy days were well deserved! 

*We were kindly gifted wristbands for this trip but under no obligation to write review


Monday, 22 July 2019

Summer Holiday Favourites

I've just returned from a lovely holiday away in Alicante wit the family, time went far too quickly and I'm already looking at booking another getaway. These holiday favourites are a regular occurrence on here but I find them useful when packing for a trip. Not only is it a way to find new things I might try but it’s also a helpful checklist. I’ve even looked back at my own list to remind myself of what I usually take away with me. There are some repeat products that are must-haves for me but I’ve got some new additions too. 


As it’s battling the elements much more than if would be at home I make sure I'm taking care of my skin so I’ll start with my skincare products.

A no brainer is the SPF. I miss when suncream used to have a lovely coconut scent to it but maybe that stuff just wasn’t doing the job. I apply factor 50 and drop down to 30 if it feels like my skin can take it. The Garnier dry mist sprays are perfect for a quick application and are great for Mason too. I love that they're not sticky and cover quickly and easily. 

For my face I usually use La Roche-Posay Anthelios Anti-shine tinted sun cream gel SPF50  (£17 for 50ml). It doesn’t feel too heavy but gives me just enough coverage in the warmer evenings to feel comfortable but I know my skin is still protected. SPF which is specially for the face is a must to avoid clogging pores or making you look shiny. Another option is the 

Anthelios Shaka Fluid tinted spf 50 (£17) is water, sweat and sand resistant so it's perfect for wearing at the pool or beach. The easy-to-apply, ultra light fluid is non-greasy with a lightly-tinted finish for a unified look. The improved texture does not irritate or sting your eyes. This one is much more lightweight but still gives you a little glow.


I keep a hat on to keep my face in the shade as much as possible but I know those UV rays creep in all over the place so you need to protect that fragile skin!

I use aloe vera gel on my body every evening, it's the only type of after sun that doesn't seem to attract bites. I've had gorgeous ones before that smell incredible but I just get eaten alive. I'm still using this on my body now and it dries almost instantly. I apply the L’Oreal Hydra Genius Aloe Water to my face which is lovely and light. Great for after being in the sun but also as my morning moisturiser too. The usual price is £ 9.99 for 70ml but I pick it up when it's on offer £6.66 which is a total bargain if you ask me. I have a full view on it here.

I don’t use wipes at home but on holiday it’s just easier than having bottles and cotton pads. I also don't have a lot of makeup to remove so my in shower cleanser tends to do most of the job for me. This year I tried out the L’Oreal Fine Flowers cleansing wipes, they were on offer for £1.99 instead of £3.99 and I’ve used some cleansers from the fine flowers range so I thought why not. They remove waterproof mascara well and take off the base layer of makeup before I properly cleanse. The 
extracts of rose and jasmine feel really soothing, I’m a big fan of rose oil as an ingredient which brings me onto the Neal’s Yard Rose  Facial Wash which is £17 for a 100ml full size bottle but I have a miniature bottle for travelling. It’s lovely to use in the morning and evening and is one of my favourite products. In fact Neal's Yard's  whole rose range is lovely.

The Origins  Drink Up intensive Over night mask is one of my favourite face masks. It has a gorgeous scent and applying it a couple of nights a week before bed gives me that extra bit of hydration my skin needs after being in the heat all day.

I repurchase the La Roche-Posay Serozinc Face Toner Mist 150ml £10 when ever it’s on offer. I’ve used it loads at home during the heatwave. It tightens pores and magnifies the skin. I absolutely love applying it, it just feels so fresh and soothing on the skin. I use it after cleansing in the morning and evening. It's great before applying make up or just when I want to freshen up. I love love love this stuff!

We did a fair bit of walking about and a good deodorant is a must when you're in a country with temperatures reaching 34 degrees. The Dove Maximum Protection Deodorant (£4.99) is my favourite and lasts all day. My top tip is to apply to your cleavage too cos sweaty boobs is one of the worst things about summer!

When it comes to make up I took my L’Oreal Unbelievabrow longwear brow gel as it was waterproof but I didn't actually use it as I had my hair highlighted before I left and this just made my brows look so dark it just didn't look right with my lighter hair. 

The Lancome Hypnose Mascara (£25.50)  is one of my favourites as waterproof mascaras go. I find a lot can make lashes look grumpy or spidery but this works just as well as any regular mascara. I meant I could splash a but with my kids in the pool which is what family holidays are all about! 

I always pack a couple of bottles of nail polish when ever I go away, I change the shade when I'm there when they inevitably get chipped from being in the pool or sea. I tend to go for a something bright, usually a coral or pink. I take Nail Polish Remover Pads so I don't  have to travel with a bottle of nail polish remover. Knowing my luck that will be the thing that spills all over everything (why do bad things happen to good people?!).

With legs on show 90% of the time I make sure I use my Venus Snap razor (£9.99 but almost always on offer for a fiver). It’s compact and has a case to keep it safe which is perfect for travelling. I think I've used one of these on every holiday since it was released. 

I don’t do anything too fancy when it comes to my hair on holiday, during the day it’s either tied up with a pop band (great for minimal kinks) or under a hat while I let my natural beauty waves do their thing. 

I wash as normal in the evening with what ever shampoo we’ve picked up to take with us, as long as it cleans and gets rid of chlorine, suncream, sand etc I’m happy. I use Macadamia Oil on the ends and apply Aussie 3 Minute Miracle Moist deep conditioner a couple of times to help with the daily exposure to so much heat. 

I wash my hair before going out for dinner and I pop my Sleep Rollers in after a shower and let my hair dry relatively naturally. My sister in law came to the rescue with her hair drier a couple of times as I wasn't giving myself enough time to get ready and my hair just wasn't drying quick enough on it's own (or with the air con on crazy high because of my annoying finance and his obsession with it!).

This year I had to think about all the bits and pieces I needed for Mila too. Packing for a 4 month old was very new to me but I think we did ok. I'll be posting about how her first holiday went very soon. 

*for clarity everything in this post was purchased myself. However I was originally sent the Macadamia Oil but have since repurchased it several times


Monday, 24 June 2019

Finding my Strength with Gatorade

I’ve made no secret of the fact that since having Mila I’m tired 90% of the time. A combination of late nights, early mornings, broken sleep and generally running around after two children takes it out of me. 

I haven’t succumbed to the pressure of getting my ‘pre baby’ weight back but I’ve had problems with my back and I want to get stronger. 

I definitely don’t have time to get to the gym but I do manage some exercises to strengthen my back to make lifting Mila easier. It can be tough finding the energy for workouts so I’ve been turning to energy drinks to help keep me going.


Gatorade is a carbohydrate-electrolyte sports drink designed to maintain endurance performance and to enhance the absorption of water during physical exercise. Which basically gives me the energy I need to work out efficiently. It helps that the drinks are really tasty. The Lemon flavour is my favourite and the Cool Blue reminds me of a slushy. You lose electrolytes through sweat so Gatorade is great to restore the lost electrolytes to keep you hydrated.

Electrolytes are minerals that have an impact on the brain, muscles and nerves. Whenever I’m run down I turn to anything with electrolytes to pick me up. I suffer with migraines and I find drinks like this really help. They are also great for stomach bugs -basically anything where rehydrating is key. 


Obviously with the sugar content these are not a weight loss drink. Gatorade is designed for the gym or athletic training. If you are working out the sugar will be worked off. I’m definitely not going to judge if you want to drink these as a treat,  cola and even orange juice are far worse for you! It’s a great alternative to caffeinated drinks and a good addition to water and I'm a big fan. 

You can buy a pack with 4 flavours here

*Pepsi (Gatorade) have gifted me this variety pack, but all views are my own.


Saturday, 25 May 2019

7 Ways To Save On Your Beauty Purchases

Every girl loves a good beauty splurge. Whether it’s the latest eyeshadow palette or a gorgeous skincare product, there’s something about beauty items that feels ultra-luxurious. Let’s face it; it’s a buzz buying them, isn’t it? 


However, lots of these items come with a pretty steep price-tag, which isn’t such good news if you’re working to a tight budget. The good news is – you can still get your hands on the latest, greatest beauty items, if you adopt a savvy approach. 

7 ways to save money when buying beauty products 

· Recycle (and get stuff back!). Recycling is not only great for the environment, it’s awesome for your bank balance too. Some shops let you return used product packaging, then in return, they give you free items! For example, when you return six packaging containers to MAC, they’ll give you a complimentary lipstick in return. Now that’s tempting. 

· Gather some samples. Beauty product samples are everywhere. You find them in the pages of magazines, you can request them in department stores, and most perfume shops are happy to let you try out their products for free too. Sometimes you have to ask though, so don’t be shy! You can also request free makeovers at your local department store, which is really useful if you’re going out for the night. 

· Get the ‘inspired by’ versions. Ask yourself – does it have to be designer? Some ‘inspired by’ versions of designer items are really convincing. For example, Copycat Fragrances’ perfumes feature many of the same ingredients as the big-brand originals, but for a reduced price. Also, when you see make-up that you love in your favourite fashion magazine, check the high street shops – many of them offer catwalk-inspired equivalents. 

· Rescue your make-up. Whatever you do, don’t bin your old make-up – chances are there’s life left in it yet! When your nail varnish goes gunky, add a few drops of nail polish remover, then stir. This helps to smooth it out again. If your eyeshadow smashes, squeeze a tiny amount of argon oil into the container, then press the powder back in with a spoon. Likewise, tiny remnants of lipstick can be melted down and added to lip balm to create a tinted lip colour. 

· Wait for the sales. Okay, so this is a bit of an obvious suggestion – but it really does pay to wait for those Christmas and summer sales. Shops often knock huge amounts off the retail price, which means you’ll get a great product for way less. Keep an eye on your favourite brands throughout the year too. Many offer exclusive discounts and freebies, so it’s worth following them on social media or subscribing to their newsletter. 

· Make your own. If you’re the creative type, this will be right up your street. Creating your own beauty products is pretty fun, and it means you can tailor them to suit your tastes (and skin type). Easy products to make include exfoliators, moisturisers, make-up removers, lip colours and more. Apparently, this ‘DIY’ approach can get quite addictive – so you have officially been warned.


Thursday, 2 May 2019

I'm still here

Mate I’m actually writing a blog post. It’s a completely different feeling cos I’m doing this on my phone. Sitting at my desk with a cup of tea and bags of time and inspiration hasn’t really been a thing since Mila was born and I relish the opportunity to lay down...

 So here I am, tapping away on my little iPhone screen spelling almost everything wrong as I’m not used to typing so much on this tiny keyboard. I’m more of a voicenote or a 'few words on whatsapp' kind of girl. The temptation to add emojis is high, I admit. 


So I haven't blogged in a while. I’ll put that partly down to becoming a mum of two but also because I’ve just not been feeling it. To be honest I started to think I didn’t 'fit the mould' as a blogger- especially a beauty blogger. Although I wear makeup everyday I don't buy half as much  as I used to- which is probably a good thing. I felt out of the loop.

I love taking pictures and sharing my thoughts so instagram has been my go to over the last few months but I don't want to forget my, as we call it 'little place on the internet'. After all, if insta went away so would my pictures and those thoughts and rambles that go with each post.

 And I have a lot of thoughts. 
The last month especially has had my mind wandering and racing like a curious sniffer dog on speed.

Maybe I’ll go into that in more detail at some point. Maybe.

I realised that while I’m definitely not your stereotypical blogger I can still blog. Life would be boring if we were all the same and there’s so many fantastic beauty blogs out there doing their thing bigger and better than I ever could. 
When I felt like giving it all up I realised that’s what old Jenn would do. Now I tackle things head on when they are important to me. Who cares if I'm more OTT than OOTD and if I have no clue where my nearest flower wall is?!

I’ve been writing for years, what started off as ranting about boys turned into sharing my love of beauty products. Then I liked to document my life a bit, share my thoughts on what was going on. I'd talk about my mental health, not only get some understanding for others but for myself. Writing is cathartic like that.

When I’m not quite sure what to do I write, it's my go-to when I feel a bit lost. I hadn't quite realised how far that goes back until I found some old notebooks the other day.

 I have a lot of notebooks. 
Some completely full, some untouched. 
Some had an account of each day that year, others I wouldn’t pick up for months but when I eventually did I would write for pages just to get things out. I don't think I'd ever looked back and read them but it’s interesting to see how I’ve changed over the years. Things that bothered me back then are tiny drops in the ocean now. People that mattered years ago are now distant memories, some are closer to me know than ever.   If You’ve been in my life in some way or another you can guarantee I've written about you at some point in some shape or form. Does that sound creepy? Hey, I'm just being honest.

I like getting my thoughts out, and sometimes sharing those thoughts helps people. Something as simple as finding a brightening shampoo that actually works, or a self cleaning make-up brush (we can all dream); I'd tell my bestie about it so why not you guys? 
Then there's sharing the personal stuff which I've toyed with over the years. In many ways I'm a very open book but in others I keep my cards extremely  close to my chest. Maybe some stuff will remain private, some might be a bit cryptic but it can be good to take a leaf out of the the Mean Girls (burn) book and 'let it out honey'. Who knows, it might even help someone else who is going through something similar. The internet has the power to feel like such a lonely place, like you're a teenie tiny fish in a huge pond, but also it can bring the most distant people together. 

This Mum stuff in particular comes with a free gift in the form of a whirlwind of emotions. So many worries and so so many questions. That thrown in with every day living and niggles of self doubt that always creep in when least expected - well I need an outlet for it all somewhere.  

So this little ramble is my kind-of jumping off point, and where I jump to I don't quite know yet but I enjoy the idea of finding out. I just know I’m not quite done yet. 


Tuesday, 26 February 2019

Giving Hypnobirthing a Try

EDIT: So, I was finishing this post when I stopped to make dinner. After we'd finished I sat back and felt some odd twinges. Those twinges were the start of labour. I've now finished this off and kept it as it was. I wanted this to be about my thoughts before trying hypnobirthing so I haven't let the experience change it. I'll be following up with how the labour went very soon.


With my due date getting closer and closer I’m very aware that I’ve got to get myself ready for labour. My last pregnancy was to put it bluntly, a breeze, and to be honest my labour wasn't awful in the grand scheme of things. Obviously it wasn’t the most pleasant experience but I had quite a positive outlook on the whole thing and I was pretty laid back about it. It was all new to me and I left everything to the midwife as I was confident she knew what she was doing.  I had no real birth plan, just a ‘we’ll see how we get on’ approach. I only really breastfed because I tried it and I found it came naturally. I think being calm about everything was a huge factor in why the labour hasn’t left me traumatised. 

This time I’d like something similar but I want a little more control over the situation and see the midwife as someone there with the knowledge to help if needs be. This is where Hypnobirthing appealed to me. I’m all about being in a positive head space to get you through things.

hypnobirthing-positive-birthI've been met with a few puzzled expressions when I mentioned I was going to look into hypnobirthing. This was mainly from the older generation, but I think it’s down to lack of knowledge- but then if you aren’t planning on doing it why would you really bother learning about it? I had no idea what Hypnobirthing was before I was pregnant. All I knew was that Harry Kane praised his wife for it and a lot of people decided to get offended. *sigh*. 

The word 'Hypnobirthing' automatically makes us think of hypnosis and a watch swinging in front of your face which gives us the impression that it could all be a load of rubbish. It's not like that at all. There is a lot of logic involved. 

I’ve ben through a lot of pain over the years with various health complications and the main reason for trying this out was that I hoped I could learn some techniques to help channel any pain into something I could deal with. If i learnt some lessons I could use after labour then that was an added bonus. Once I started looking into Hypnobirthing I was fascinated, anything to do with the mind is right up my street. I got very into it.

Why do we have  negative thoughts about birth?
We get into our heads that pregnancy is a lot of screaming and shouting and telling your partner to never come near you again. I’ve often heard conversations between men and women trying to decide whether childbirth is more painful than being kicked in the balls. Why are we focusing on the pain side of things rather than what the end goal is? We don't see other mammals giving birth screaming - that would make for a rather traumatic trip to the farm! With films and TV we’ve been lead to believe that labour is dramatic, loud and scary, this makes for far more interesting viewing but in real life it's the opposite of what we need or what it has to be like. 

Hypnobirthing is a way to manage pain throughout labour by getting you into a relaxed state through breathing techniques and trusting your body which in turn makes the experience far more bearable. Many women talk about their hypnobirthing experience as something wonderful to look back on. 

Language and understanding your body
The language used is a big part of it. It changes your perception.  
In hypnobirthing a contraction is referred to as a 'surge' which makes perfect sense to me. The word 'contraction' makes me focus on the tightness that I feel while the term surge is like a feeling that is coming and going, it’s temporary.  I’ve always said that stomach pains I’ve felt with my past health problems are bad because they are constant, they don’t come and go like surges do. So in my last labour I saw it as something positive, that it was going to have an ending a few more deep breaths and they are gone -even if only for a bit. I plan on focusing on this the next time around too. 

You’re also encouraged to use the word ‘pressure’ instead of ‘pain’ which takes away the negativity a little bit. Pain isn’t a word you need to be focusing on but understanding that there is pressure is fine. It’s not about switching off from what you feel, it’s about understanding it and taking control while focusing on being calm and relaxed to help your body do it’s thing.

When we are afraid (which is a common feeling during childbirth) our body diverts blood and oxygen away from the uterus to essential defence organs which means it can't perform its functions efficiently without pain. If we remain calm and relaxed, the uterine muscles are are free to work comfortably as they are not starved of blood and oxygen. Even the science makes sense. If you don’t expect it to be painful you’ll feel more in control.

Fear makes you tense up and that results in pain. Knowing what exactly happens when there is a surge makes me understand what my body is doing. Think of it this way, if your leg suddenly hurts for no reason you’ll panic more than if you know you just knocked it. It’s the unknown that makes us uneasy- children aren’t scared of the dark, they are scared of what might be in it. I’ve become more aware that I need to trust my body, it  does a lot of the work for you if you let it. During my time being a mum I’ve often surprised myself when I’ve just gone with my gut and used my instincts only to google what to do afterwards and find I was right.

I remember being in labour with M and I thought to myself ‘If I could stop this pain right now, would I?' And I answered 'no' because I knew this was what my body needed to go through for me to meet my baby. It was such a clear moment for me and I was in that mindset from that moment. This was just what my body naturally needed to do next. 


You need to tell yourself that you can do this. Women have always done this. One way to keep the fear at bay and picture the birth as a positive experience is with birth affirmations. Reminding yourself that your body is working with you and replacing the worries with good thoughts will really help with the pain. 

Hannah kindly sent me these from her Etsy store and they’ve been great to look through and keep me uplifted. Any time I start to feel a slight worry about labour I concentrate on one of these at a time. The affirmations allow your mind to relax and prepare yourself for a positive, confident birth. 

They’re great to have next you your bed, on your desk or pinned around your mirror to look at while you get ready in the morning. They can help to remind you that this isn't a scary experience and it's one you are naturally ready for. 

Each card has positive phrases such as
- Each surge brings me closer to my baby.
- My body was designed to birth my baby.
- All I need to birth my baby is me.
- I trust that my body knows what to do will give you great things to focus on. 

and they are great points to remember, even if you just focus on a couple that appeal to you. 

There are lots of ways to keep you in the right mindset. Hospitals can be a daunting place so you want to make everything feel right for you. Some people opt to have home births for this reason. I feel relaxed at a hospital as I've been in them so many times so it's not a huge problem for me but it's something to consider if you find hospitals a bit to clinical or frightening at all. 

Visualising places that make you happy or having music playing that keeps you calm can help. I’m not saying this has to be whale music, for me it’s a playlist of songs that always make me smile. The song of the first dance at our wedding, the song that Mason dances to, the song that is about my family, the song that takes me back to my childhood.  ‘Under Pressure’ by Queen is on there but we won’t focus on the irony there! If hospitals make you uneasy then you can make the environment feel more comfortable for you using lighting, your own pillow or even smells to keep you calm. Nobody is going to judge you for doing this your own way. You do whatever makes you feel calm. 

Remember that endorphins (the ‘happy hormones’) are more powerful than fear -which results in pain so it’s important to try your best to stay as positive and calm as you can. 


Involving the birthing partner 
A massive plus for me is how involved the birthing partner is. Sam and I are very into state change. Your mind is a powerful thing and just focusing on the right things can make a big big difference to so many things. I knew this would be a great thing to us to learn together. It’s been really fascinating to talk through  together in the evenings. 

Partners can feel a bit helpless at the birth and I love that this way he can be really involved and know what he can do to help. It’s as much Sam’s birthing story as it is mine. If he knows whether I’d like to be touched or not, or if he should talk to me during surges for example, it’s less likely to end in tension. He's helping me along and I won't feel so alone. 

A lot of pregnancies  are very ‘mummy’ focused. Even through to school age you see ‘mum groups’ and school activities  focusing on just the females. The dad is very much a part of the process too and as much as it's my body changing it's both of our lives that are going to change and the more they understand what you’re going through the easier it will be on the relationship.

Both of you are encouraged to address any fears and not bury them. Discussing things with your partner brings you together and once you’ve got a fear out in the open you can work through them which helps the brain to relearn that birth is safe and not something to fear. 

There is no way to fail
The biggest misconception being hypnobirthing is that it all has to be 100% natural or that you’ve failed if you need assistance in any way. It’s in no way a competition, if someone wants all the drugs available then go for it -they are there and we are very very fortunate to have that kind of thing offered to us on the NHS. 

We need to get away from this defensive nature. ‘Natural’ isn’t code for better, it’s natural to walk but if you have a broken leg, pain killers and crutches are a massive help and you wouldn't think any less of someone who used them. Harry Kane wasn’t trying to insult anyone by being proud of his wife for giving birth and I’m sure he’d have said exactly the same thing is she’d had medication, either way she’s just brought a life into the world. That in itself is an amazing thing. The birth is yours, not anyone else's so you do what is right for you. 

I only had gas and air last time but that was only because my labour moved so fast there wasn’t time to even consider any more meds before it was time to push - who knows if I had taken it or not if the labour had been drawn out for hours..? 

 I’m very much prepared that my labour  might not be such an easy ride this time. The rumours are that the second pregnancy is quicker,  but complications can happen for any pregnancy and every birth is different. 

In the moment a lot of plans can go right out the window so who knows if I'll even use what I've learnt - time will tell! But it’s good to have the knowledge there if I'm able to use it. 

I appreciate it's not for everyone. But if this sounds like something that you want to look into there are courses you can book locally as well as ones online which are easier to fit around your own schedule. I listened to the Audio book of 'Your Baby, Your Birth' by Hollie De Cruz which was great and really down to earth. I also watched a few youtube videos of people telling their own hypnobirthing stories which was really eye opening. 

Even if I take away a few bits of what I’ve learnt I think it will help me massively.  I just want to have this little mental boost to give me a nudge in the right direction. I’m definitely less anxious about this birth and I'm genuinely excited to get started. After all, after labour I get to meet my baby girl and that is the light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope this has helped anyone thinking about trying hypnobirthing and I'll be sharing my thoughts on how it all went after the labour! 

*the affirmation cards were kindly gifted to me but I wasn't obligated to feature them