Thursday, 30 August 2018

Baby Number Two

Recently I've been in two minds about sharing too much of my life online. I was torn between being relatable and not wanting to give too much away. I know there are prying eyes everywhere and some things are just so personal, you know...

but I started this blog when I was pregnant with M and it really gave me something to focus on that wasn't all nappies and nap times. It's a nice way to get out my thoughts and have something to look back on. I don't know how much I'll end up sharing and I really don't feel in any position to label myself a 'mummy blogger' but this is my life and I guess that's what I wanted this blog to be about. Getting my thoughts out is quite cathartic.  

So as you may have figured out, I have some news! 

Baby number two is on the way. They weren't planned as such but not unplanned. Basically we decided last year that there was no point putting it off any further. We'd got engaged and the plan was to get married and then try for a baby afterwards. The wedding got put off due to a lot of family arguments that just meant the day we wanted would be nightmare and it went on the back burner a bit. A lot of drama caused a lot of stress which meant trying for a baby wasn't going to work so we just focussed on enjoying life as it was, making no big plans. We booked holidays and days out, family weddings and hen parties happened -all things we figured wouldn't be ideal if I was pregnant. The stress had gone, life was easy again and we started to think about big plans for the future. This time it wasn't the wedding that was our priority. 


We wanted to have a sibling for M almost immediately after he was born and my 2 brothers and I have such a great relationship with 4 years between each of us  We'd always known anything between 4 and 8 years was an ideal time to wait (for us - no judgement at all on anyone! I hate that it even needs to be said!). 

With a couple of holidays planned for this summer we told ourselves we'd officially 'try' at the end of the year when we were back. Then if it didn't happen we'd take a break in time for our family holiday next year and then try again. It was pretty structured and a bit limiting. Planning a life around holidays and weddings just didn't seem right - this is a life after all. It also seemed like we were setting ourselves up for a lot of pressure. After a bit of thought we decided to not 'try' but see how things went, we took the pressure off and if things happened earlier than originally planned we'd work it out. And that is what happened. Almost immediately.

The Test

I ordered the test of Amazon. I just knew I'd be spotted buying the test in town and I didn't want to risk it! One line appeared immediately and a faint one was showing pretty soon after. After a bit of confusion and googling we found out the first 'strong' line was a 'Yep, you are definitely pregnant'. The other was something about the test working or something. We were thrilled.

Keeping the secret

As I said, we had a holiday booked. We were due to fly to Cape Verde two weeks after we took the test and there is a risk of Zika Virus which is dangerous for pregnant women. We swapped our holiday for a nice relaxing trip to Spain and tried to keep the change fairly quiet so people wouldn't question it too much. I made sure pictures of cocktails were present on social media but of course they looked all pretty but they were all non alcoholic. We all know Instagram isn't reality. 

The announcement 

We told both our Mums the day we found out, mainly just for the support but they were sworn to secrecy. They were both so excited and pleased for us. 
We waited for the 12 week scan to tell M. Then we wrote a message on our note board and left it up for him to see. It took a while for him to notice it but we filmed his reaction and it is the cutest video ever. He is so excited about being a big brother, he's heard the heartbeat and is following the babies journey on the app I have. 
M told the rest of the family at his birthday get-together. We made sure everyone we wanted was there and any people that couldn't make it got personal messages right afterwards. We gathered everyone round to watch M open a big present and it had a balloon inside with the scan on it along with a t-shirt that said big brother. There were tears all round and it was perfect. Keeping the secret from my bestie was the hardest - it felt like I was lying to her and her reaction is the only one that made me teary. Having her with me through this pregancy is going to be so exciting.


The obvious feeling in the first trimester was the tiredness, I know it was bad when I had M but it is so much tougher when you've got a child to look after too. With it being Summer holidays we were a lot more active than usual and that coupled with the heatwave meant I was SO run down!
For someone who tans really easily and loves the sun I am unusually pale this year as I've been avoiding it, it's just been too much and apparently your skin is more sensitive to sunlight when you're pregnant. 

I suffered with insomnia for a while - I never sleep much anyway but I have found I was up much much later trying to sleep, woke several times in the night and and struggled to settle again. I didn't feel like I needed to sleep in the day, it was more of a constant feeling exhaustion. I guess I'm prepared for the baby at least!

At first I craved icy lemony drinks or ice lollies but that could have just been because it was so hot! Lately I've wanted tomatoes a lot - a friend has said this could be a sign of dehydration which definitely could be the case as I never drink enough water. 

Girl or Boy?

Previously I made no secret that I wanted all boys. I was adamant that was my dream family. But (and I know nobody  who heard me speak so passionately before will believe me) I genuinely love the idea of having a girl! M is all about fairness and he likes the idea that our family with be 'even' and having one girl and one boy is kind of ideal, isn't it?   Two boys is cute too so I actually have no preference. Though we have a name for a girl and none for a boy so that would be slightly easier! At times I think this pregnancy is so similar to my first but then I have a hunch it's a girl. My Nan guessed M was a boy (and also knew I was pregnant before I did without having seen or spoken to me for 6 months!) and this time she thinks it's a girl so we will see if her psychic skills are still decent. 

My general thoughts 

I'm into my second trimester now which I know gets easier - plus M will be back at school so I can just sleep all day and online shop while watching Friends (kidding of course!).
We are so happy to have a birthday at the beginning of the year, with the exception of Sam's Grandma everyone else in our family has a birthday after August. The baby will be 10 months for it's first Christmas which is exciting and it will be 5 months on our holiday with family in the summer. Everything has just turned out pretty great and we're so excited. I'm interested to see what a pregnancy over the winter is like, I didn't need to buy maternity clothes last time as it was summer and I lived in floaty dresses but I think I'll definitely be investing in some maternity leggings and jeans so the next couple of months! Any recommendations, please let me know! 

Even though I've done this before it's still very daunting as everything seems to have changed...

 why are we putting babies in cat basket type things that cost £130 now? 
and apparently I need to buy some kind of magical sheep. I need to read up on what's new but generally I'm just going to trust my instincts cos I think we've done a pretty decent job with the first one.