Tuesday, 15 October 2019

Time for Tea: What kind of woman?

There’s a lot of talk about how men are dicks. Men are to blame for this and that... 
Men do lots wrong and yes, men cheat; I feel like society focuses on that a lot. 
A man will be remembered as a cheater. A name will be brought up and the automatic ‘he cheated on his wife’ response follows. Not to say that it's not forgiven, but it’s always remembered. 


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This might be an unpopular opinion but the woman involved, (and I’m generalising here) or the 'other party' has it all brushed off.

This little ramble stems from a poll I did on Twitter recently. I asked if anyone who had ever worked in an office knew of an office affair, of someone there in a relationship-of -sorts with a partner at home. I think you know where I'm going here, the most common answer was yes.

Over the years I’ve worked in many offices and it every single one I knew about an affair going on. I have so many stories I could tell but there just isn’t the time. Maybe one day I'll write a book. 

One time my (married with kids) boss sent every girl in the office a rose on Valentines day, which was very sweet but I knew it was the way he got around sending his PA a bigger bunch without anyone raising an eyebrow. My eyebrow very much raised as said PA (newly married with a baby) trained me and left her e-mails open while she 'left me to it' (or went to do jobs for her boss but whatever...) A bored temp who can file papers quickly finds ways of passing the time. Those e-mails revealed a lot about what her and the boss got up to and it was much more than making the coffee and booking the meeting rooms, let me tell you!

At another job, a work friendship of mine ended due to her telling the (married to a model, with a kid together) boss that she’d been filling me in on details of their dates and nights in the back of his Range Rover. He swiftly made me redundant too so that was fun. 

I know a very large company which has trips away where almost everyone is up to no good behind their partner’s backs. And everyone covers for each other. Or at least they try to. 

Now, in the cases I’ve mentioned it’s the men that are married and/or have kids. It’s still wrong when it’s someone’s boyfriend but I think it’s got more to it when there’s a marriage or children involved so I’m focusing on them, the husbands. 

The men are cheating with someone. Someone who thinks that’s ok. A girl who would do that to another girl. To someone at home looking after that man’s kids while he has dinners and drinks away at bars, theme parks or race courses. In some cases to pregnant women. What kind of girl thinks that’s ok?! I can’t help but feel that these girls get off scot-free. The men (when they are found out) are outed as cheating scum while the girl moves on to her next victim- never to actually settle of course. Maybe it’s the type of girl that doesn’t suit relationships, she has commitment problems or daddy issues. The need to feel significant for a few hours far out ways any pride or dignity. 

Maybe not knowing the wife makes it easier, I’d like to think if it was a friend of theirs they would act differently but who knows...
All they need to do is block their social accounts and move on. There’s no real repercussions, nothing to lose. 

If a friend of mine sat me down all ‘guess what, I’ve been seeing this guy! He’s married, his wife is pregnant but that doesn’t matter...’ I’d be calling her some names that rhyme with ‘hut’ and ‘ducking tanky itch’.

 It’s just not ok to be ‘that girl’. Even emotional cheating, not quite getting (pardon the phrase) ‘in there’ but implying it; being that one that is on the end of the phone for random texts, selfies and chats about your day, it’s still not right. Anything behind the wive’s back is not ok. It’s not a case of “I’m not married, he’s the one who’s in the wrong- not me!’ No, you both are! You lumped yourself right into the category of wrong when this started. Yes he should address any problems in his relationship with his wife but any woman with any form of moral compass would not move forward til he did so. 


In this age of feminism and having the ‘girls support girls’ anthem rammed down our throats on every slogan tee on the market we should be better. You should be better. So fucking stop it. 



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Friday, 13 September 2019

Zippos Circus

After the hype of The Greatest Showman last year Mason started to show an interest in the circus. The idea of showing everything weird and wonderful is fascinating in a child’s eyes. You can’t deny there’s a real mystical feel that is unlike any other performance. 

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I remember going to the circus in my early 20's with a group of friends. It was a great night out and something a little bit different than our usual trips to the pub.

 When I was offered the chance to go visit this year I knew it would be a lot of fun to watch the show as a family. Mason has been so good since Mila’s arrival, he's been the perfect big brother and a great help to me, not just since she was born but throughout my pregnancy too. He deserves a treat with us and a little time with just Mum and Dad and this looks perfect.


 Zippos Circus is back on the road for with a nationwide Big Top 2019 tour – The
 Magnificent Top Hat. They’re celebrating 21 years since Ringmaster Norman
 Barrett MBE first appeared at Zippos Circus. Norman holds the Guinness World Record for the longest-serving Ringmaster and he’ll be presenting acts from all over the world. From astonishing acrobats and aerialists, amazing contortionists, clever comics and daredevil motorcyclists -they have it all! 

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With such a variety of acts there’s bound to be something for everyone. I’m really looking forward to seeing  3 foot 6 showman Paulo Dos Santos who is meant to be fantastically funny. And watching daring acts like knife throwers up close is going to be nail biting! 

They are currently in Twickenham until the 17th September, then on to Peckham Rye from 24th-29th September. They are coming to a couple of locations near me but the easiest for us to get to is Bannisters Field in Guildford at the beginning of October and they head on to Rochester, Finsbury Park and Hampstead Heath afterwards. 

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Tickets for the two hour show (with interval) start from just £9 for adults (15 years and over) and £7.50 for children. Kids under 2 go free if they don’t occupy a seat.

If you want to head down to see the show I have a discount code that will give you 30% off. Just use ZIP30 when you order. You can find the tour dates and locations  here: https://www.zippos.co.uk/tickets


I’ll be sharing our experience over on Instagram so keep an eye out at the beginning of next month and check out the #zipposcircus hashtag on instagram in the meantime! 






*I've been offered complimentary tickets to attend this event but all thoughts and views are my own


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Monday, 2 September 2019

Our Day at the Beach

I try not to get too bogged down with the competitive side of the Summer break. I say try because naturally I'm always doubting myself when it comes to the kids. The whole ‘you only have ‘X’ more summers with them’ comes with a lot of pressure to make sure you're out and about, making sure you all 'enjoy every moment'.  I don’t think that the child who goes on the most day trips has the best Summer. Never mind the cost of all those days out, it’s good to have some rest days not only for them but for us Mums too! Days just hanging out with family, a quick trip to the park on the way back from the food shop or even just a movie (that they almost never sit through!) day -It’s all fun for them. You don’t need to keep up with what you think the wonder mums are doing, they probably have secret boring days too and if they don’t I bet they’re bloody shattered! 

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During this summer break we've made sure we've mixed in some rest days along with some days out. On one of the more active days we  headed  down to Portsmouth to Kidz island South Pier.


I spent all of my childhood summers at the beach so I've got a real love for the British seaside. It has that old nostalgia and the smell in the air just makes me smile as it takes me back to being young and carefree.



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We live about an hour away from Portsmouth so it's easy for us to drive down for the day when the mood takes us. So one rather sunny day we managed to tear Mason from his Nintendo Switch for long enough to head down for a day at the beach.

 As you walk along the beach you see the traditional Helter Skelter ride on the end of the pier which gives it that authentic feel. Right away I heard the  familiar sound of beeps and songs from the arcade machines and the children's excitement. 

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We went straight to the ticket booth to get our £7.50 wristband which gave us access to all rides and could go on as many times as we wanted. If you are planning on spending the day here the wristband is your best option but you can choose to pay £2 per ride if you just want a couple of goes. 


There's a good selection of rides which suit under tens. Being 5 months old meant that Mila was a little too small for the rides but she enjoyed all the bright colours around her. The mini planes was a favourite of Mason's. Each plane had a different theme and his wristband meant he wasn't disappointed when the Pokemon plane was taken, it meant he could go on that one on his next go and opted for a different plane for his first go. We are all familiar with a child's mini breakdown when they don't get what they want so this was a massive plus in my eyes!

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He loved the chair swings and the caterpillar roller coaster with the great view out to sea. It looked really lovely on such a clear day. I really enjoyed going on this with him, it was so nice to see him enjoy the things I loved as a kid. It really felt like we had some proper family time.

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We all took it in turns to have a go on the Dogems. I'd forgotten how much fun they are and they really brought out the kids in Sam and I. I think a date to a fair is on the cards soon!

We couldn't walk past without having a go at 'hook a duck' - a prize every time just makes it worth it. Even Mila got a go! 

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No trip to the seaside is complete without Fish and Chips so we treated ourselves in the restaurant and took the weight off our feet for a bit. We had an ice cream and a play in the arcade before we headed home. 

We visited on a sunny Friday afternoon and Mason walked straight on to every ride. On one occasion he got to go around again on the roller coaster which he loved. 

There is a selection of food stalls on the pier selling both hot and cold food and drink so there's something to keep your energy levels up. We had a paddle in the sea, ate ice cream, managed to keep the seagulls from stealing our chips and I got slightly pink shoulders, All in all a fabulous day at the beach which meant a couple of lazy days were well deserved! 




*We were kindly gifted wristbands for this trip but under no obligation to write review




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